RIP Fr. Ed

Today the priest that officiated at my wedding has been called home to God.   He was more than just an officiant or a priest to me, he was a friend.   When I first met Fr. Ed it was with my then fiancee (who is now my wife), the first thing he said to me is that it will mean more to us when we get married if we attended church regularly.  I took this to  heart and hadn’t been to Mass in a long time.   From that Sunday on I was at 7:00AM Mass every Sunday and Father Ed was there to shake my hand and say hello after Mass.  


Father Ed had a great sense of humor.  One day he came walking down the aisle before Mass talking to someone and I was kneeling to pray when he patted me on the back and said to the person he was walking with in a humorous manner “ This is Frank he is always deep in prayer.”  Then he topped himself at Mass another time he was processing in and my wife and I were in the first pew, he leaned over as he was walking to the altar and said just loud enough  me and  and my wife to hear it “Frank, stop singing you’re scaring people away.”.  I had all I could do to not start laughing out loud.  The next time he got me at Mass was at my Wedding when he announced to the guests as my wife stood beside me “This is the part where Frank starts crying.”  


He was a great priest, person and friend.  My wife and I got the pleasure of his company to watch a football game and dinner at our place and watch a Baseball game at the rectory.  We were up talking to about 2:00AM the game was over about 10:00PM or so.  

After he left our local parish I only saw him a couple more times.  Once for confession, once for a Mass, and the third time he and I went out for dinner and drinks.  I wish I had contacted him more but life gets in the way sometimes.  I will always have fond memories of Fr. Ed.  He is with the Father in heaven, may he Rest in Peace.


Matthew 4:19 He said to them, “Come after me, and I will make you fishers of men.”
O Lord, we pray Thee that the soul of Thy priest, Thy servant Ed, which, while he abode in this world, Thou didst adorn with sacred gifts, may ever rejoice in a glorious place in heaven. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.





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Mother Theresa, me, and her humility list

Mother Theresa Humility list

1. Speak as little as possible about yourself.
2. Keep busy with your own affairs and not those of others.
3. Avoid curiosity.
4. Do not interfere in the affairs of others.
5. Accept small irritations with good humor.
6. Do not dwell on the faults of others.
7. Accept censures even if unmerited.
8. Give in to the will of others.
9. Accept insults and injuries.
10. Accept contempt, being forgotten and disregarded.
11. Be courteous and delicate even when provoked by someone.
12. Do not seek to be admired and loved.
13. Do not protect yourself behind your own dignity.
14. Give in, in discussions, even when you are right.
15. Choose always the more difficult task.

1, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 14, and 15, these are the numbers from this list that I think would be the hardest to follow. I wouldn’t expect myself to change overnight as far as being able to follow this list. This list of course was by a very humble and caring woman, Blessed Theresa of Calcutta. I read this list every so often and wonder how she was able to follow it, I’m sure not always perfectly but surely better than I could. So pondering this I’ve decided to try my best to do a little self improvement experiment and try to follow this list the best I can for the next week and then write a new post about my experience. I hope for it to change me a bit for the better. I invite anyone that reads this post to give it a try even for just a day. If you do please post your experience in the comments. Thanks for reading.


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The Prayer, The Fruit
By Mother Theresa

The fruit of silence is prayer.
The fruit of prayer is faith.
The fruit of faith is love.
The fruit of love is service.
The fruit of service is peace.


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Pray for our Priests

A few weekends ago, my wife and daughter were away. So, I called an old friend, the priest that presided at our wedding. He was reassigned from our parish for over three years now and I had only sporadically kept in touch with him. My wife and I had a great relationship with him. We had him over our house for a football game and had visited him at the rectory to watch a baseball game. He would always be sure to seek us out before mass to say hello and see how things were going with us. I decided to call him to see if he’d like to get together. I told him my wife was away and I was living the bachelor life for a couple of days. I asked him if he would like to go out for dinner or a drink. He was happy that I called and coincidentally he was on vacation that
week. We met up at a restaurant near where he was staying; a place he is a regular at when he’s on vacation. We had a great time catching up and talking about life, family, and faith. Fr. is very down to earth and easy to talk to. I consider him a friend as well as a spiritual leader. He then said something that struck me. He said he was glad that I called because he was just sitting around and he was kind of lonely. He admitted that he isn’t one to pick up the phone and call someone, something that I can relate to, I can be this way too. We had a great night and I told him he would hear from my wife and me more often and we would be visiting more often as well. My point is, besides their families, priests need friends too. Don’t just assume that they are too busy. Give them a call, take them out, invite them to dinner. They need your friendship. These men are very important to our spiritual lives, let’s show them how much they mean to us.


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A prayer for priests by Pope John-Paul II
Source: John Paul II, conclusion of the Post-synodal Apostolic Exhortation “Pastores dabo vobis” on the formation of priests in the circumstances of the present day, March 25, 1992.

O Mary,
Mother of Jesus Christ
and Mother of priests,
accept this title which we bestow on you to celebrate your motherhood
and to contemplate with you the priesthood
of, your Son and of your sons,
O holy Mother of God.

O Mother of Christ,
to the Messiah-priest you gave a body of flesh
through the anointing of the Holy Spirit
for the salvation of the poor and the contrite of heart;
guard priests in your heart and in the Church,
O Mother of the Savior.

O Mother of Faith,
you accompanied to the Temple the Son of Man,
the fulfillment of the promises given to the fathers;
give to the Father for his glory
the priests of your Son,
O Ark of the Covenant.

O Mother of the Church,
in the midst of the disciples in the upper room
you prayed to the Spirit
for the new people and their shepherds;
obtain for the Order of Presbyters
a full measure of gifts,
O Queen of the Apostles.

O Mother of Jesus Christ,
you were with him at the beginning
of his life and mission,
you sought the Master among the crowd,
you stood beside him when he was lifted up from the earth
consumed as the one eternal sacrifice,
and you had John, your son, near at hand;
accept from the beginning those who have been called,
protect their growth,
in their life ministry accompany your sons,
O Mother of Priests.


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This speaks for itself.

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Saint Frances De Sales


I found a wonderful quote/prayer from a saint I do not know much about. I have added him on my list of saints to learn more about.

    Be at Peace

By Saint Francis de Sales

Do not look forward in fear to the changes in life;
rather, look to them with full hope that as they arise,
God, whose very own you are,
will lead you safely through all things;
and when you cannot stand it,
God will carry you in His arms.

Do not fear what may happen tomorrow;
the same understanding Father who cares for
you today will take care of you then and every day.

He will either shield you from suffering
or will give you unfailing strength to bear it.
Be at peace,
and put aside all anxious thoughts and imaginations.

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A wonderful prayer before a meal.

“O God when I have food, help me to remember the hungry.
When I have work, help me to remember the jobless.
When I have a comfortable home, help me to remember those who suffer from the cold or from the heat.
When I am without pain, help me to remember those who suffer. In all this remembering, help me to destroy my own complacency and bestir my compassion.
Make me concerned enough to help by word, deed and prayer, those who cry out for what I so often take for granted.”

I don’t know who wrote this wonderful prayer but it was posted on Facebook by Fr. James Martin, SJ.

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Prayer for strong faith to Saint Joseph

Prayer for strong faith to Saint Joseph

Happy, blissful St. Joseph,
heir of the faith of all the patriarchs,
obtain for me this beautiful and precious virtue: increase in me a lively faith,
the foundation of all sanctity,
that faith without which no one can be pleasing to God.

Obtain for me that faith
which triumphs over all temptations of the world and conquers human respect;
which can be shaken by nothing,
and is directed solely towards God.

Cause me after your example to live by faith, to subject my heart and understanding to God, that once I may behold in heaven what I now firmly believe on earth.

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Spare time is prayer time

As I sit here waiting to have my hair cut, I think to myself that instead of sitting here and getting annoyed because I have to wait, why not take the opportunity to pray. So off I go to have some time with my Lord.


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Spare time is prayer time. Just thought of that it’s probably not an original thought but it sounds good.

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A great quote from the Gospel of Mark

And Jesus *answered saying to them, “Have faith in God. Truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says is going to happen, it will be granted him. Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you. (Mark 11:22-24 NASB)

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Reflections from the weekend.

This past weekend was great. The weather was wonderful and we were able to grill outside on Sunday. God truly blessed us with a great day. The day started off with me going to the final RCIA class of the year. My wife who also went through the program and has been on the team for a few years now she was not able to do it because of our new baby, so I filled in. It was a great experience overall. I was able to lead a few of the classes, my favorite of the section I got to teach on Prayer. Prayer is an essential part of Catholic life. A prayer can be as simple as saying Thank you God. One book that I recommend is “To Whom Shall We Go? Lessons From the Apostle Peter” by Timothy Cardinal Dolan, Arch Bishop of New York, not just for it’s section on ways to pray but because it is a great book to assist in living a wonderful and fulfilling spiritual and Christian Life. I have read a few of Cardinal Dolan’s books and have been pleased with them all. Now to get back to my weekend, after the RCIA class, my wife, daughter, and I attended Mass. I get such a warm feeling at Mass with my family sitting there and knowing God is smiling down at us. We have taken my daughter since the first week she came home from the hospital and she has been great every time so far, thank God. Our Deacon who is in charge of the RICA program stopped by our pew as he always does on Sundays and asked my wife if she would be on the RICA team next year again and she said yes she would be on the team again. The deacon suggested we do it as a team and said that he knows it will be good because as he sees it, as a married couple we are a great team. That made my heart fill with happiness, I know my wife and I are great team but to hear someone actually validate this point is a wonderful testament to our marriage. In many ways this was a blessed and wonderful weekend.

As I stated in an earlier post about the items being collected for mothers in need, I go the name of the organization so that if you are able to help you can contact them. Friends of the Unborn in Quincy, MA.


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Husband’s Prayer

O gracious Father, Maker and Preserver of heaven and earth, who in the beginning didst institute matrimony, thereby foreshadowing the mystical union of the Church with our Savior Christ, who, during His ministry upon earth, did honor marriage with His first miracle: help me, I pray Thee, by Thy grace to live in holiness and purity with the wife whom Thou hast given me. Mortify in me all violence of earthly passion, all selfishness and inconsiderateness (here name any besetting sin which may be a hindrance to you), that I may love her as Christ loved His Church, cherish and comfort her as my own body, and have as great care for her happiness as for my own. Grant that we may live in peace, without contention; in unity, without discord. [Give us, O Lord, discreet heart and understanding minds, to bring up our children in Thy faith and fear, that they may be obedient to Thee and to Thy commandments, and to all that Thou requirest of them in their duties towards their parents.] And give us, O Lord, a sufficiency of those things necessary to maintain ourselves and our family according to that rank and calling wherein Thou hast placed us, without excess or vainglory, in singleness and pureness of heart. Grant this for Jesus Christ’s sake, to Whom, with Thee and the Holy Ghost, be all honor and glory, now and for ever.


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