RIP Fr. Ed

Today the priest that officiated at my wedding has been called home to God.   He was more than just an officiant or a priest to me, he was a friend.   When I first met Fr. Ed it was with my then fiancee (who is now my wife), the first thing he said to me is that it will mean more to us when we get married if we attended church regularly.  I took this to  heart and hadn’t been to Mass in a long time.   From that Sunday on I was at 7:00AM Mass every Sunday and Father Ed was there to shake my hand and say hello after Mass.  


Father Ed had a great sense of humor.  One day he came walking down the aisle before Mass talking to someone and I was kneeling to pray when he patted me on the back and said to the person he was walking with in a humorous manner “ This is Frank he is always deep in prayer.”  Then he topped himself at Mass another time he was processing in and my wife and I were in the first pew, he leaned over as he was walking to the altar and said just loud enough  me and  and my wife to hear it “Frank, stop singing you’re scaring people away.”.  I had all I could do to not start laughing out loud.  The next time he got me at Mass was at my Wedding when he announced to the guests as my wife stood beside me “This is the part where Frank starts crying.”  


He was a great priest, person and friend.  My wife and I got the pleasure of his company to watch a football game and dinner at our place and watch a Baseball game at the rectory.  We were up talking to about 2:00AM the game was over about 10:00PM or so.  

After he left our local parish I only saw him a couple more times.  Once for confession, once for a Mass, and the third time he and I went out for dinner and drinks.  I wish I had contacted him more but life gets in the way sometimes.  I will always have fond memories of Fr. Ed.  He is with the Father in heaven, may he Rest in Peace.


Matthew 4:19 He said to them, “Come after me, and I will make you fishers of men.”
O Lord, we pray Thee that the soul of Thy priest, Thy servant Ed, which, while he abode in this world, Thou didst adorn with sacred gifts, may ever rejoice in a glorious place in heaven. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.





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Mother Theresa, me, and her humility list

Mother Theresa Humility list

1. Speak as little as possible about yourself.
2. Keep busy with your own affairs and not those of others.
3. Avoid curiosity.
4. Do not interfere in the affairs of others.
5. Accept small irritations with good humor.
6. Do not dwell on the faults of others.
7. Accept censures even if unmerited.
8. Give in to the will of others.
9. Accept insults and injuries.
10. Accept contempt, being forgotten and disregarded.
11. Be courteous and delicate even when provoked by someone.
12. Do not seek to be admired and loved.
13. Do not protect yourself behind your own dignity.
14. Give in, in discussions, even when you are right.
15. Choose always the more difficult task.

1, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 14, and 15, these are the numbers from this list that I think would be the hardest to follow. I wouldn’t expect myself to change overnight as far as being able to follow this list. This list of course was by a very humble and caring woman, Blessed Theresa of Calcutta. I read this list every so often and wonder how she was able to follow it, I’m sure not always perfectly but surely better than I could. So pondering this I’ve decided to try my best to do a little self improvement experiment and try to follow this list the best I can for the next week and then write a new post about my experience. I hope for it to change me a bit for the better. I invite anyone that reads this post to give it a try even for just a day. If you do please post your experience in the comments. Thanks for reading.


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The Prayer, The Fruit
By Mother Theresa

The fruit of silence is prayer.
The fruit of prayer is faith.
The fruit of faith is love.
The fruit of love is service.
The fruit of service is peace.


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Tonight I am overwhelmed with a feeling of love and appreciation for my wife and daughter. The Lord has truly blessed with both of them. Both of them without even knowing it inspire my life in so many ways. God is good and I thank him for these two wonderful blessings in my life

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Saint Joseph, guardian of Jesus
and chaste husband of Mary,
you passed your life in loving fulfillment of duty.
You supported the holy family of Nazareth
with the work of your hands.
Kindly protect those who trustingly come to you.
You know their aspirations,
their hardships, their hopes.
They look to you because they know
you will understand and protect them.
You too knew trial,
labour and weariness.
But amid the worries of material life,
your soul was full of deep peace
and sang out in true joy
through intimacy with God’s Son entrusted to you
and with Mary, his tender Mother.
Assure those you protect that they do not labour alone.
Teach them to find Jesus near them
and to watch over Him faithfully as you have done.


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God Bless Pope Francis

Habemus Papam

Only a few days as Pope and I’m in awe and inspired by Pope Francis.

“As you know, the duty of the conclave is to give Rome a bishop,” he said. “It seems that my brother cardinals went almost to the end of the earth to find him.” -Pope Francis


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Today’s Mass Readings.

Luke 21:25-28

“There will be signs in the sun, the moon, and the stars,
and on earth nations will be in dismay,
perplexed by the roaring of the sea and the waves.
People will die of fright
in anticipation of what is coming upon the world,
for the powers of the heavens will be shaken.
And then they will see the Son of Man
coming in a cloud with power and great glory.
But when these signs begin to happen,
stand erect and raise your heads
because your redemption is at hand.”

I was moved by this part of the gospel reading today.


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The Blessed Mother

Last week at my parish, I was greeted by our new statue of the Blessed Mother and she was awe inspiring. It is 9 foot tall and sculpted in Da Nang, Vietnam. It is in the image of Our Lady of Grace.


Our Lady of Grace, Photo by Frank Tavaline ©2012


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Sunday Night Weekend Recap

This Saturday my wife, my daughter and I attended 4:00 Mass at our parish. This is not the mass we regularly attend but we do know some of the people at this Mass. I was asked to be an eucharistic minister by the deacon because it did no look like enough of the scheduled people were in attendance. While distributing communion I had an epiphany as the members of the congregation were coming to receive the Body of Christ. As the parishioners approached me I realized reflecting back to me was the image of Christ in all their faces.

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Prayer to Know Jesus Christ

O Lord Jesus, like Saint Paul, may I count everything as loss in comparison with the supreme advantage of knowing you. I want to know you and what your passion and resurrection can do. I also want to share in your sufferings in the hope that if I resemble you in death I may somehow attain to the resurrection from the dead. Give me grace to make every effort to supplement faith with moral courage, knowledge with self-control, self-control with patience, patience with piety, piety with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. May these virtues keep me both active and fruitful and bring me to the deep knowledge of you, Lord Jesus Christ. Amen

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A great quote from the Gospel of Mark

And Jesus *answered saying to them, “Have faith in God. Truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says is going to happen, it will be granted him. Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you. (Mark 11:22-24 NASB)

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Our Lady Queen of the Universe Shrine

This weekend my wife, daughter, and I visited Our Lady Queen of the Universe Shrine in Orient Heights (East Boston). It is a breathtaking and beautiful shrine if you have some time and you are in the Boston area. It is really a sight to behold. Pictures of the statue do not do its size and beauty justice. There are also stations of the cross around the shrine as well as mosaics. It was a moving experience and I will visit again.


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Here more information on the shrine

Photo by Mrs. Wretch.

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Reflections from the weekend.

This past weekend was great. The weather was wonderful and we were able to grill outside on Sunday. God truly blessed us with a great day. The day started off with me going to the final RCIA class of the year. My wife who also went through the program and has been on the team for a few years now she was not able to do it because of our new baby, so I filled in. It was a great experience overall. I was able to lead a few of the classes, my favorite of the section I got to teach on Prayer. Prayer is an essential part of Catholic life. A prayer can be as simple as saying Thank you God. One book that I recommend is “To Whom Shall We Go? Lessons From the Apostle Peter” by Timothy Cardinal Dolan, Arch Bishop of New York, not just for it’s section on ways to pray but because it is a great book to assist in living a wonderful and fulfilling spiritual and Christian Life. I have read a few of Cardinal Dolan’s books and have been pleased with them all. Now to get back to my weekend, after the RCIA class, my wife, daughter, and I attended Mass. I get such a warm feeling at Mass with my family sitting there and knowing God is smiling down at us. We have taken my daughter since the first week she came home from the hospital and she has been great every time so far, thank God. Our Deacon who is in charge of the RICA program stopped by our pew as he always does on Sundays and asked my wife if she would be on the RICA team next year again and she said yes she would be on the team again. The deacon suggested we do it as a team and said that he knows it will be good because as he sees it, as a married couple we are a great team. That made my heart fill with happiness, I know my wife and I are great team but to hear someone actually validate this point is a wonderful testament to our marriage. In many ways this was a blessed and wonderful weekend.

As I stated in an earlier post about the items being collected for mothers in need, I go the name of the organization so that if you are able to help you can contact them. Friends of the Unborn in Quincy, MA.


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Husband’s Prayer

O gracious Father, Maker and Preserver of heaven and earth, who in the beginning didst institute matrimony, thereby foreshadowing the mystical union of the Church with our Savior Christ, who, during His ministry upon earth, did honor marriage with His first miracle: help me, I pray Thee, by Thy grace to live in holiness and purity with the wife whom Thou hast given me. Mortify in me all violence of earthly passion, all selfishness and inconsiderateness (here name any besetting sin which may be a hindrance to you), that I may love her as Christ loved His Church, cherish and comfort her as my own body, and have as great care for her happiness as for my own. Grant that we may live in peace, without contention; in unity, without discord. [Give us, O Lord, discreet heart and understanding minds, to bring up our children in Thy faith and fear, that they may be obedient to Thee and to Thy commandments, and to all that Thou requirest of them in their duties towards their parents.] And give us, O Lord, a sufficiency of those things necessary to maintain ourselves and our family according to that rank and calling wherein Thou hast placed us, without excess or vainglory, in singleness and pureness of heart. Grant this for Jesus Christ’s sake, to Whom, with Thee and the Holy Ghost, be all honor and glory, now and for ever.


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