RIP Fr. Ed

Today the priest that officiated at my wedding has been called home to God.   He was more than just an officiant or a priest to me, he was a friend.   When I first met Fr. Ed it was with my then fiancee (who is now my wife), the first thing he said to me is that it will mean more to us when we get married if we attended church regularly.  I took this to  heart and hadn’t been to Mass in a long time.   From that Sunday on I was at 7:00AM Mass every Sunday and Father Ed was there to shake my hand and say hello after Mass.  


Father Ed had a great sense of humor.  One day he came walking down the aisle before Mass talking to someone and I was kneeling to pray when he patted me on the back and said to the person he was walking with in a humorous manner “ This is Frank he is always deep in prayer.”  Then he topped himself at Mass another time he was processing in and my wife and I were in the first pew, he leaned over as he was walking to the altar and said just loud enough  me and  and my wife to hear it “Frank, stop singing you’re scaring people away.”.  I had all I could do to not start laughing out loud.  The next time he got me at Mass was at my Wedding when he announced to the guests as my wife stood beside me “This is the part where Frank starts crying.”  


He was a great priest, person and friend.  My wife and I got the pleasure of his company to watch a football game and dinner at our place and watch a Baseball game at the rectory.  We were up talking to about 2:00AM the game was over about 10:00PM or so.  

After he left our local parish I only saw him a couple more times.  Once for confession, once for a Mass, and the third time he and I went out for dinner and drinks.  I wish I had contacted him more but life gets in the way sometimes.  I will always have fond memories of Fr. Ed.  He is with the Father in heaven, may he Rest in Peace.


Matthew 4:19 He said to them, “Come after me, and I will make you fishers of men.”
O Lord, we pray Thee that the soul of Thy priest, Thy servant Ed, which, while he abode in this world, Thou didst adorn with sacred gifts, may ever rejoice in a glorious place in heaven. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.





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Mother Theresa, me, and her humility list

Mother Theresa Humility list

1. Speak as little as possible about yourself.
2. Keep busy with your own affairs and not those of others.
3. Avoid curiosity.
4. Do not interfere in the affairs of others.
5. Accept small irritations with good humor.
6. Do not dwell on the faults of others.
7. Accept censures even if unmerited.
8. Give in to the will of others.
9. Accept insults and injuries.
10. Accept contempt, being forgotten and disregarded.
11. Be courteous and delicate even when provoked by someone.
12. Do not seek to be admired and loved.
13. Do not protect yourself behind your own dignity.
14. Give in, in discussions, even when you are right.
15. Choose always the more difficult task.

1, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 14, and 15, these are the numbers from this list that I think would be the hardest to follow. I wouldn’t expect myself to change overnight as far as being able to follow this list. This list of course was by a very humble and caring woman, Blessed Theresa of Calcutta. I read this list every so often and wonder how she was able to follow it, I’m sure not always perfectly but surely better than I could. So pondering this I’ve decided to try my best to do a little self improvement experiment and try to follow this list the best I can for the next week and then write a new post about my experience. I hope for it to change me a bit for the better. I invite anyone that reads this post to give it a try even for just a day. If you do please post your experience in the comments. Thanks for reading.


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The Prayer, The Fruit
By Mother Theresa

The fruit of silence is prayer.
The fruit of prayer is faith.
The fruit of faith is love.
The fruit of love is service.
The fruit of service is peace.


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Pray for our Priests

A few weekends ago, my wife and daughter were away. So, I called an old friend, the priest that presided at our wedding. He was reassigned from our parish for over three years now and I had only sporadically kept in touch with him. My wife and I had a great relationship with him. We had him over our house for a football game and had visited him at the rectory to watch a baseball game. He would always be sure to seek us out before mass to say hello and see how things were going with us. I decided to call him to see if he’d like to get together. I told him my wife was away and I was living the bachelor life for a couple of days. I asked him if he would like to go out for dinner or a drink. He was happy that I called and coincidentally he was on vacation that
week. We met up at a restaurant near where he was staying; a place he is a regular at when he’s on vacation. We had a great time catching up and talking about life, family, and faith. Fr. is very down to earth and easy to talk to. I consider him a friend as well as a spiritual leader. He then said something that struck me. He said he was glad that I called because he was just sitting around and he was kind of lonely. He admitted that he isn’t one to pick up the phone and call someone, something that I can relate to, I can be this way too. We had a great night and I told him he would hear from my wife and me more often and we would be visiting more often as well. My point is, besides their families, priests need friends too. Don’t just assume that they are too busy. Give them a call, take them out, invite them to dinner. They need your friendship. These men are very important to our spiritual lives, let’s show them how much they mean to us.


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A prayer for priests by Pope John-Paul II
Source: John Paul II, conclusion of the Post-synodal Apostolic Exhortation “Pastores dabo vobis” on the formation of priests in the circumstances of the present day, March 25, 1992.

O Mary,
Mother of Jesus Christ
and Mother of priests,
accept this title which we bestow on you to celebrate your motherhood
and to contemplate with you the priesthood
of, your Son and of your sons,
O holy Mother of God.

O Mother of Christ,
to the Messiah-priest you gave a body of flesh
through the anointing of the Holy Spirit
for the salvation of the poor and the contrite of heart;
guard priests in your heart and in the Church,
O Mother of the Savior.

O Mother of Faith,
you accompanied to the Temple the Son of Man,
the fulfillment of the promises given to the fathers;
give to the Father for his glory
the priests of your Son,
O Ark of the Covenant.

O Mother of the Church,
in the midst of the disciples in the upper room
you prayed to the Spirit
for the new people and their shepherds;
obtain for the Order of Presbyters
a full measure of gifts,
O Queen of the Apostles.

O Mother of Jesus Christ,
you were with him at the beginning
of his life and mission,
you sought the Master among the crowd,
you stood beside him when he was lifted up from the earth
consumed as the one eternal sacrifice,
and you had John, your son, near at hand;
accept from the beginning those who have been called,
protect their growth,
in their life ministry accompany your sons,
O Mother of Priests.


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Saint Joseph

In recent days I have been reflecting on Saint Joseph the foster father of Jesus and spouse of our Blessed Mother. I have been looking to him as a role model for me and all husbands and fathers. He stood patiently in the background raising our savior along side his wife Mary. When I hem and haw about my honey-do list and think what a pain in the butt, I need to remember these menial tasks pale in comparison to the task Joseph undertook when he accepted Gods call to be a husband to Mary and a foster father to Jesus. He did this without question. He did not require praise or people validating what he was doing. He was doing what a husband and father have the privilege to do, love his wife and child. So the next time I feel like I’m unappreciated or complaining about taking out the trash I only have to do what imagine Saint Joseph did and see that what I do is for the good of my family. I need to remember that the smiles and love from my wife and daughter are reward enough.


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    A Father’s Prayers of Petition

As the guardian of my family, that I constantly instill Catholic values, I pray to the Lord.

When I am discouraged and weary, give me the grace to be strong, I pray to the Lord.

To be a source of patience, understanding and love to my family, I pray to the Lord.

To teach my children always to do Your will, using the Blessed Mother and Saint Joseph as examples, I pray to the Lord.

Help me willingly and joyfully to accept the sacrifices I must make for the common good of my family, I pray to the Lord.

Help me to instill in my children a love for Jesus and His Church so that they will be witness to others, I pray to the Lord.

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Today’s Mass Readings.

Luke 21:25-28

“There will be signs in the sun, the moon, and the stars,
and on earth nations will be in dismay,
perplexed by the roaring of the sea and the waves.
People will die of fright
in anticipation of what is coming upon the world,
for the powers of the heavens will be shaken.
And then they will see the Son of Man
coming in a cloud with power and great glory.
But when these signs begin to happen,
stand erect and raise your heads
because your redemption is at hand.”

I was moved by this part of the gospel reading today.


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The Blessed Mother

Last week at my parish, I was greeted by our new statue of the Blessed Mother and she was awe inspiring. It is 9 foot tall and sculpted in Da Nang, Vietnam. It is in the image of Our Lady of Grace.


Our Lady of Grace, Photo by Frank Tavaline ©2012


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Sunday Night Weekend Recap

This Saturday my wife, my daughter and I attended 4:00 Mass at our parish. This is not the mass we regularly attend but we do know some of the people at this Mass. I was asked to be an eucharistic minister by the deacon because it did no look like enough of the scheduled people were in attendance. While distributing communion I had an epiphany as the members of the congregation were coming to receive the Body of Christ. As the parishioners approached me I realized reflecting back to me was the image of Christ in all their faces.

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Prayer to Know Jesus Christ

O Lord Jesus, like Saint Paul, may I count everything as loss in comparison with the supreme advantage of knowing you. I want to know you and what your passion and resurrection can do. I also want to share in your sufferings in the hope that if I resemble you in death I may somehow attain to the resurrection from the dead. Give me grace to make every effort to supplement faith with moral courage, knowledge with self-control, self-control with patience, patience with piety, piety with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. May these virtues keep me both active and fruitful and bring me to the deep knowledge of you, Lord Jesus Christ. Amen

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Sunday reflection.

It is the start of new week and God is good. This past week has brought a lot of God’s love to me. On Monday I attended a Men’s Faith Meeting in Weymouth, we had a wonderful speaker Jim Orcutte, he is man of great faith and a great example for other men. Jim helps the poor. He likened the love that our Lord has for us as the love one has for their child. I know that is an amazing love, because the little girl trying to get to sleep in the next room has all the love in my heart that I can give. Then on Wednesday I attended my monthly Cursillo reunion, there I was able to gain strength spiritually and mentally for the challenges I face in my faith life. Friday by far was the greatest day, the Lord delivered my wife and daughter safely home from their trip to visit family. I was thinking today how blessed I am for my daughter and wife and everything in life we are blessed to have. My parish St. Bernadette’s in Randolph, MA will be collecting baby items for mothers in need. I will get the information on how to donate and post the information here as soon as I can. These mothers and babies need everyone’s help and support. John 15:12 NASB “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you.”

May Christ’s Love be in your heart,

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